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I’m not a confrontational person by any means, but when I get enough of someone or something…watch out! I guess the “watch out” comes into play only because I choose not to express my feelings as they occur. I usually keep my smile on and let things bottle up until I’ve decided enough is enough.
“Back in the day” I was not like this at all. I used to express my feelings as they occurred and never bottle things up inside, knowing this wasn’t healthy. Why I flip-flopped, I’m not sure. I think it’s because I’ve always been around a lot of people who express themselves 24/7 and almost always seen negative consequences. Those scare me. Bottom line. I hate to see people hurt or defeated post-consequence. It breaks my heart.
I’m learning to better express myself through choosing my words more carefully and really thinking before I speak and blow up on someone. I love setting a good example on how people should behave and treat others, so deviating from my normal smile and cheerfulness just isn’t an option. I’ve become a pretty “chill” person, but I have a long way to go, especially when dealing with people my age. I do a lot better with people over the ripe old age of twenty. As I navigate down this path we call life, and you “watch” in horror excitement, I hope I remember to Inhale Love and Exhale Hate more often. If my brain fails me, I’m sure Our Creator will remind me….I am sure of that.
Some questions for you: What are you like in this aspect of your life? Do you bottle things up or express on the spot? I want to learn from YOU!
4 comments:
I need to be more like you. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and just let my feelings out wherever whenever. Biting my tongue has never been my strong point either. I'm sure I have hurt many feelings being this way and I'm working on being slower to react. I like your inhale love exhale hate analogy and I'm stealing it :-)
You are wise beyond your years! (not that I'm that much older than you hahaha)
Oh I love the inhale love, exhale hate! That is sooo wise.
In my youth, I was very quick to vocalize when someone upset me, etc. But God dealt with me on my attitude and now, instead of blowing up on them or pushing it down inside, I take it to God. I turn it over to Him, the situation, the person, the whole thing including the hurt or anger. And I try really hard to leave it with Him. Sometimes I fail, and have to do it again. But when I manage to finally give it all to Him I feel so much better. And then I can pray for them and love them the way He wants me to love them.
Oh, it totally depends on the situation, who, what, when and where. Really, it does. I think praying about it is definitely important.
And, if you chose your words wisely, you might find out that a person didn't know you were upset.
Hi! Love your blog; I landed here from another fav of mine. After I read this post, I had to comment.
I feel like this ALL the time anymore. But ONLY at work. It's the strangest thing because at home and when I'm out, I never hold back what I think or if someone offends me.. but at work, I really let people think that I'm a pushover and I'm totally not. I guess in a way it's the whole "work" thing and I'm just avoiding confrontation. But I gotta tell ya, some days I feel like I'm about to burst and just have my say.
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